I thoroughly enjoyed reading through the fieldwork assignment interviews merely because I learned so much from them. One of the discussion topics that really caught my attention was the talk of interfaith marriages. I also remember talking about Jewish appearance and ancestry in class. I am particularly interested in this topic because I am the product of an interfaith marriage. My mother is an Irish Catholic and my father is Jewish.
I was very surprised to read through the interviews and see how many people were opposed to marrying outside of the Jewish faith. I never considered the topic much because it has never been a concern for me. However, I think the most interesting aspect of these discussions was the reasoning behind keeping marriages between people of Jewish faith.
Many of the interviewees were questioned about potential life partners and the importance of their religious beliefs. An overwhelming number of young participants said they could not see themselves marrying outside the Jewish religion. One participant even said that if she were to fall in love with someone who was not Jewish she would expect him to convert. Even some of the participants who were older mentioned being opposed to interfaith marriage, not just for themselves, but also for Jewish people throughout the world. I posed this question of interfaith marriage to one of my participants. My eighteen-year old friend agreed with the majority of those who were interviewed. She said that she does not plan on marrying someone who is not Jewish. Her mother has always told her, “Be sure you find yourself a nice Jewish boy one day”.
Lowenstein’s chapter on appearance and ancestry provided insight into the reasoning behind marrying within the Jewish people. The fear of converts after the rise of Christianity and Islam in areas predominantly populated by Jews was something I knew nothing about. Separation from these other religions led to communities almost entirely populated by born Jews (Lowenstein, 225). There has been much evidence, however, to suggest that the Jewish population has never been completely devoid of the gene pool of the outside world.
I thought this would be an interesting matter for me to comment on simply because this is a topic that, although it directly applies to me as a product of an interfaith marriage, it is not something I have ever thought much about. Also, I would say about half of the families (maybe more) who belong to my temple are interfaith couples. All of this opposition to marrying outside of Judaism was something that surprised me and really opened my eyes to a new aspect of my religion that I was unaware existed.
