Over the years, I have had many conversations with my Jewish friends about the holiday season, which have made me realize how the contrast between Jewish culture and the majority Christian population of America becomes much more distinct during this time. Although Christians obviously don’t suddenly abandon their Jewish friends or vice versa, there is still an element of separation that really cannot be avoided. There are many more times that the two are physically separated, because both parties want to be spending their own holidays with those who also celebrate them. Because those who celebrate Christmas are in the majority in America and because Hanukkah is not as important a holiday for Judaism as Christmas is for Christianity, Christmas is certainly more in-your-face than Hanukkah is. As a result, the divide has more impact on everyday life during this time. Visually, it is immediately apparent who is Jewish and who is not. This difference in decorations during the holiday season in particular is what has caused an ongoing argument with one of my Jewish friends and me.
We refer to this argument as the “Hanukkah wreath” argument, and though it is just a light-hearted disagreement we like to play around with, I think that the discussion reveals a lot about the boundary making between Jewish culture and American culture, especially during this time of year. The basis of the argument is the idea of whether it is necessarily fair to say that certain holiday decorations associated with Christmas, such as the wreath, is exclusively Christmas-related. It started out because I wondered out loud if there could be such thing as a Hanukkah wreath, but my friend adamantly opposed the idea. She said that she doesn’t think that Jews should ever have Hanukkah wreaths because the wreath is a Christmas decoration. However, as far as I’m concerned, there is nothing specifically symbolic of Christianity inherent in the wreath. We casually looked it up at one point and it seems that though there is one interpretation of a wreath as symbolizing “the never-ending love of Christ” http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wreath), the concept of wreath actually began in Roman and Greek times and had absolutely nothing to do with Christianity. In fact, I know many households that keep seasonal wreaths up that have no religious connotation at all. I do agree that perhaps now the “winter wreath,” made with pine needles and pine cones and ribbons (even those ribbons that colors other than red) are associated with Christmas, but I can’t help but wonder why this means that Jews should not be able to decorate a wreath in a Hanukkah style. Like Christy questioned in her previous blog, I too wonder how different the holiday season would be if Jews were in the majority in America. Would this type of evergreen wreath, made with supplies commonly found in winter, be associated with Hanukkah more than with Christmas? Would Christians be less inclined to put up wreaths with Christmas decorations on them if they were perceived as strictly Hanukkah decorations? As we discussed after reading Jonathan Webber’s “Lest We Forget!” people as a whole take elements of their culture, even grief, and become fiercely protective of it; in order to remain fiercely protective, there must be something else to protect against, to push away. So by pushing away anything that is even vaguely associated with the culture in question, one feels as if they are being more loyal to their own culture.
