\u00a0 ‘It was years ago but I still blush. Sex can feel like love or maybe it\u2019s guilt that makes me call sex love. I\u2019ve been through so much I should know just what it is I\u2019m doing with Louise. I should be a grown-up by now. Why do I feel like a convent virgin?’ (p.94)<\/p>\n
\u00a0 Quite often pleasure of sex comes with guilt. The guilt that you should have sex only with someone you truly love will make you \u2018blush\u2019, and feel like a \u2018convent virgin\u2019. It is so burdensome that you sometimes deceive yourself to evade from the guilt. An abrupt sex may be turned into genuine love. As what Warner insists, the guilt itself is illegitimate, restricting people\u2019s identity and behavior without any ethical base. If we refuse the guilt, and if sex no longer necessarily means love, however, how would we know what love is?<\/p>\n
\u00a0 Marriage used to be the evidence of love. It strongly bound love and sex. But \u2018grown-ups who have been through so much\u2019 now should realize the norm do not assure you of true love. Love affairs between numerous married women and the narrator showed relationships composed of only obligations and duties cannot mean love.<\/p>\n
\u00a0 The narrator keeps trying to find how sex can be connected to real love instead of guilt and duty. The narrator says the measure of love is loss, and the loss the narrator feels is represented as her body. The narrator get obsessed with sex and touch they used to have, and then with Louise\u2019s body and the narrator\u2019s sensation, and then with her biological body of organs and other parts, even cells.<\/p>\n
\u00a0 Would the narrator still love Louise, who became much paler and thinner and whose all the body parts got serious cellular damage after leukemia treatment? If so, why? Wasn\u2019t it her body that the narrator had sex with, and that convinced the narrator to fall in love? If not, why?<\/p>\n
\u00a0 \u2018Written on the body is a secret code only visible in certain lights; the accumulations of a lifetime gather there.\u2019 (p.89). It is the narrator\u2019s memory with Louise that sustains his\/her love. The memory is about flesh and carved in flesh. In other words, it is not Louise\u2019s present physical body but the narrator\u2019s memory of her body why the narrator long for her. Memory of body is the narrator\u2019s unit of love.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
\u00a0 ‘It was years ago but I still blush. Sex can feel like love or maybe it\u2019s guilt that makes me call sex love. I\u2019ve been through so much I should know just what it is I\u2019m doing with Louise. I should be a grown-up by now. Why do I feel like a convent virgin?’ … Continue reading The unit of love<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2977,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[123782],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-865","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-2016-blog-post"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.dickinson.edu\/everythinginbetween\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/865","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.dickinson.edu\/everythinginbetween\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.dickinson.edu\/everythinginbetween\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.dickinson.edu\/everythinginbetween\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2977"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.dickinson.edu\/everythinginbetween\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=865"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.dickinson.edu\/everythinginbetween\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/865\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blogs.dickinson.edu\/everythinginbetween\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=865"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.dickinson.edu\/everythinginbetween\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=865"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blogs.dickinson.edu\/everythinginbetween\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=865"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}